Let me explain...
In today’s ever-changing society, I want my daughters to know one thing – they’re second best.
My daughters will grow up with advancements in technology that aren’t even fathomable to you or me. For them, though, those things will be just another part of everyday life. Automatic speech recognition systems will learn their patterns of daily life, their moods through their tones and inflection, adjust settings to their styles, their taste in music, and even their intellectual capacities. Online retail will be the norm for everything from clothes and shoes to your weekly groceries, and any human interaction will take a back seat to self-serve-kiosks. Anything that can be automated will be. My daughters will have the world at their fingertips, literally.
That world filled with experiences that we can only imagine, twisted versions of tolerance, and a culture that will try to convince them that equality is synonymous with entitlement. A society bent on eliminating their differences while simultaneously obliterating their uniqueness. In a world of safe-spaces, offended offenders, intolerants screaming for tolerance, and masses demanding for misappropriated restitution from society, my daughters will have to navigate this world with a strict moral compass.
The Future influences
the Present just as much
as the Past - Nietzsche
Our society and especially our workforce will change rapidly during their lifetime. We are living in the industrial revolution of our time. My floors are already swept and vacuumed by robots, my lights turn on by a simple “good morning,” and I can tell my dogs to get off the couch from anywhere in the world. In an era of diminishing manual labor, rapid information, and future education systems, my daughters will have to work hard to actually understand working hard.
As things continue to shift and progress over their life, I can only imagine what dating, sexuality, and marriage will look like in the society I just described. So, I ask myself what can I, as a man, their protector, their provider, do to shelter them from the things every father dreads. The best thing I can do for them is to make sure they know that they are not “numero uno” in Daddy’s life. One woman has already reserved that role, and that woman is their mother.
Daddy is the first man many little girls fall in love with and rightfully so. However, I believe the mistake lies in those same daddies falling in love with their daughters. As my daughters grow, I will not treat them like princesses, like angels, or any other deity for that matter. I will treat them like my daughters. See, I love them no matter what. I love them regardless of anything they might do, and I love them even if they never love me back. Nothing would change the love I have for my daughters. Nothing and no other man will ever be able to love them as I do. For that reason, I will make sure that they both understand that their mother is the most important woman in my life. I believe how I treat my wife is far more valuable to my daughters’ future relationships than how I treat my daughters. I want them to see the love, respect, and support I give their mother, so that they may understand what they deserve in their own future relationships.
Social media, dating apps, instant gratification, likes, and followers are all things that will inevitably be a part of my little girls’ lives. That road will be a difficult one to navigate in terms of relationships, and I shouldn’t add to those difficulties. I should be the man they confide in, the protector they trust, the provider they respect, and the father that they love. I never want them to look at me and think, “I want a man like my father.” I want them to look at my wife and say, “I want a man like my mom’s husband.”